THIS IS HARD
"I don't think a lot of people realize how serious this is or how hard it is to change," she said to me. "For me, it is as hard as getting rid of an alcohol or drug problem is for other people. Making these changes is not fun.
"I don't think I could do it without spiritual help. Every day I ask God for strength and do reading to keep up that spiritual connection. I just wish others who struggle with this problem would realize how big the problem is that they are dealing with."
My friend was right. The problem is not the house. Our focus is not on household tips, schedules, or any other thing that is house-centered. My friend knew where the real issue lay. She was centering on her own need for change because as she changes, slowly but surely the house will follow.
One of our slogans is, "You alone can do it but you can't do it alone." Another one of the Messies Anonymous slogans, taken from the A.A. tradition, is "Let Go and Let God." How to do this is a big topic but my friend was right. Something is lacking by trying to do it all on our own.
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