I don't ask people such questions. However, I feel my child has the right to know. We have told our parents only. They knew were were struggling with infertility. They went through some really tough medical things with me. We had told them we were looking into adoption which we were. So after we decided to do DE and after I was 12 weeks along, we told them. They were so thrilled at my pregnancy, nothing else matters. I would never tell co-workers or friends. It definitely is NONE of their business. People can be ignorant and petty. Family is one thing, friends, aquaintances, a totally different thing.
When my child fully understands, it will be up to her. Can she blurt something out, of course. But what will she blurt out - that mommy had help? B/c that's all she knows. She doesn't understand the genetics of even what an egg and sperm are now. I do not regret in the least in telling my parents or my child.
It is not something I am ashamed of. It is something that has worked out so wonderfully. My child was meant to be in this world. I went through hell and came back kicking and found a way to bring her into this world. The only way to bring THAT child into the world. And I thank God, every day for all I went through. B/c if I had not gone through it, SHE would not exist, and the world could not exist without her.
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