I met a very close friend of mine today for the first time in several months and told her that I am pregnant. She told me that she has news of the opposite kind - she has been diagnosed with POF!
She already has two children and was not planning to have any more, so that's not the issue. I just feel really conflicted about not telling her that I have POF too and that this pregnancy is through DE. She was a bit depressed about the "I am already in menopause at 38" aspect of it and boy do I know what she is talking about! I probably also know a lot more about all the health aspects of it because I've already been in this situation for the last couple of years. I feel like I ought to be helping her, telling her that she is not alone and supporting her. However, that would mean telling her I've done DE and that is something I'm not prepared to do, at least not at this stage. For one thing DH would go ballistic and for another thing I also want our daughter and the baby to be the first to know.
It really makes me wonder about the environmental aspect of it all. Apparently 1% of women go into menopause before 40, so the probability of us both having POF is very low. What could have affected us both in this way? I thought my FSH was high at 81 but hers' was 160!