When I found out it would be twins, all I could think is "WhathaveIdoneWhathaveIdoneWhathaveIdone?? I will never be able to meet their needs as I could for only one child. I will never be able to be the mother I dreamed of being. I am going to shortchange my babies. No matter how good I am, it won't be good enough." I am getting over that because at this point, my little ones and I simply have to play the hand we've been dealt and I have to be the best mommy I can be. I don't know how she presented her concerns, but maybe she is feeling something similar. (And yes, I was shocked to have such a visceral negative reaction to something I had worked so long and hard for...I know this is not really the appropriate board to dwell on any emotions like that - and really, I do not anymore - but wanted to share what thoughts she may be having. It could well be out of love for her current children and coming child that she is feeling ambivalent).