clearly a hot issue. The only thing I will say that as an unseasoned 28 year old I did judge my male boss pretty harshly for being 50, overweight and unfit, with two small children under five. I thought the least he could do was get fit. However I will also say that the reason he was a so much older parent was he and his wife had a full term still born little boy and it took them many years to recover. I personally dislike blanket judgements.
Are you in government policy?