Excellent points made Kekona and to anon....m (child ment)November 20 2010 at 1:08 AM
|Hope2009 (no login)|
Response to Re: Pregnancy over age 50
normally I don't respond to "ANON" posts with your message but I just wanted to say a few things from my experince.
I had our first child (oe) a the very society accepted age of 30...we had a lovely house, both had fantastic careers, money for trips to Hawaii and Disneyland but we had no time to be with our child b/c we were so busy creating all the material wealth in our life.
I then had our most recent baby at age 49 (de) and am currently pg again with twins at 51. I know that we are better parents now to our children whom we had later in life. Our last oe baby was born when I was 43 and I fit in great with her friend's moms...most of them think I'm their age.
We have more time to spend with our children, more resources as well after all those years building wealth...and heck...how many people do you know retire at 50, 55 or even 60 these days...I think that is a thing of the past from previous generations and more and more people are going to be living longer and working well into their golden years. (which to me are 80) Many of my family live close to be centurions...especially my great grandparents and grandparents who had their last babies in their late 40's..interesting hey.
I know so many people who retired from their careers at 65 and were dead within 5 years b/c they didn't have anything to do or anything to live for any longer...when you are an older parent you are still very active, involved in the community, still earning a living and have a lot to live for.
In my opinion you worry, worry, worry about too many things. As Kekona addressed older parents are still in the low birth numbers but also this is nothing you need to worry yourself about...older parents are going to take care of their own and it shouldn't impact you or society one iota...and if anything society will benefit by children who are raised by parents who really wanted their children, have time for them and love them without condition. Can offer the world to them in many respects..and that doesn't have to be about wealth...as I'm understanding more and more it is about a soul's journey...we can give our children the gift of being connected with all things on this earth which is a great gift to pass on..that to me is the best situation to be raised under....think of a generation of loved children who aren't wealth focussed but are world focussed...is there something to fear from that?
Fear is a dark force that I learned years ago not to enter into...it prevents a person from living the life they were meant to live and if that is something that dictates your decisions in life I'm really sorry for you. I think if you listen to your heart's lead, not what society says, not what fear whispers..you can never go wrong...that is one of the wise things I pass onto my children..something I didn't learn until I was on the journey ttc over 40.
Well those are a few of my thoughts regarding your comments....in the future if you want to be taken more seriously post your name and be less fearful of outing yourself and your opinions...I Would respect your opinions more if that were the case.
Blessings from Hope
- and thank you, Hope! - KellyCA on Nov 20