It was a weird thing to discover. This child was put up for adoption & I can never find him or her ever, as far as I can tell. My grandparents tried and they were not allowed to see the records so I'm sure I never could.
So I guess I am definitely OK with whatever my kid feels like doing! I realized that I picked normal people as donors so that if he/she traces them, they will be cool people and not weirdos. So in my mind, I guess I have always expected my kid will try to find out about his donors.
Of course, I will tell him/her genetics don't matter. Because this is what I believe, STRONGLY. This is what I KNOW from personal experience. It BARELY matters. But I do think of this unknown half brother and I wonder what this person is like. I sort of hope they're OK. But it's really not much of a tie and dollars to donuts if I met him/her there wouldn't be much of a connection. I guess I'll never know though.
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