you need to be totally happy on the donor you decide on. If you want a donor with big eyes and a big smile you must keep looking, if a college education is what you want, you'll find someone. Have you looked on surromomsonline? I found my first donor there and was everything I wanted except she lied about her age. There are normally photos of the donors and most are able to travel, mine travelled to Asia to donate for me - she had big eyes and a big smile (not that I'm suggesting her as she is too old) but she was a total match to what I wanted, even the same doctorate that I had. DE to me has been the best thing I ever did but I had total peace in the donors that I chose, if I didn't then I think I may have worried about it but as it is I'm so glad I went forwards and have the most wonderful children in the world.