Our donor chose us I won't go into the circumstances. But we are so glad she did
Our little guy is wonderful. He is like us, fair, blue eyes right now (he is three months old), he had a good sense of humor
I really like our donor. She is a mom herself and is very much like us in that she is a calm and kind person.
I often have it said that 'oh your baby is lovely and calm'. Well that is because we are both calm and so is the donor.
I think your 'must haves' are fine. I think they are broard enough to not exclude you from finding a donor quickly. Always go for proven.
My personal criteria was fair, blue/green or grey eyes.
best wishes to you. cheers, TH.