Hard decision

First of all I wouldn't have a problem with my DH viewing the photos even if I decided not to. I just wanted to put that out there since I know the previous poster would have a problem (I respect that too). Didn't want you to feel weird for considering that option.

Prior to having our kids, I could never have imagined choosing a donor without seeing a photo. Couldn't imagine it. Couldn't understand women who would agree to a donor sight unseen.

Now that I have my boys and see a resemblance to the donor in one of them, and a resemblance to her family in the other boy, I sometimes wish that I had not seen a photo of her or her family. If I had never seen a photo, I might only see my husband's features in their faces. There are days when I don't care a whit and there are other days when I care a lot and it makes me sad.

I am not sure if this is helpful to you.

I should add that on the whole, I'm glad I saw a photo as I needed that reassurance to go forward. After the fact, well, I wish I could forget!