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Are you worried about loving DE as much...(child ment.)

March 21 2011 at 5:20 PM
Blueberry5  (no login)

 

Hi,
I'm a lurker and now that I have a log in, I'm (apparently) brave enough to be 'out'. wink.gif I'm blueberry pie; well that's what I wanted to be only that name was taken so I'll settle for blueberry5. My fav.
A little about me: 44, married to a really great guy who is 54. You might want to remind me that I once said he was really great. We have a 4 year old son and we've been trying for the last 2 years to give him a sibling. My son was born without ivf.
I'm awaiting a DE FET in the next month or two.
Back to my question:
I sometimes wonder if I will love this DE child as much as I love my son. Has anyone ever wondered about this kind of thing? I think I will, because I just adore my son's little friends and secretly wish I could adopt them! If it were only that easy!
But when I think of DE I wonder if I will be jealous of the attention he/she receives from my husband. He's a wonderful father and I wouldn't want it any other way but I sometimes have a bit of fear about whether I'll love my second child as much.

 
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  1. I was not wondering...I was sure it's impossible to love - LizLA on Mar 21, 2011
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  3. oh yes - Dee on Mar 21, 2011
    1. Lizla and Dee - Blueberry5 on Mar 21, 2011
     
  4. I never questioned whether I would love my DE baby...m child ment - Hope2009 on Mar 21, 2011
    1. Hope2009 - Anonymous on Mar 21, 2011
     
  5. You may love your DE child differently but (children) - BlessedThistle on Mar 21, 2011
    1. Do you have a bio child? - Anonymous on Mar 21, 2011
      1. No (children again) - BlessedThistle on Mar 21, 2011
    2. Blessedthistle - Blueberry5 on Mar 21, 2011
     
  6. Same situation, same thoughts! (child mentioned) - Aoife1 on Mar 21, 2011
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  8. Yes I was (OE Children and DE Children ment) - E&H on Mar 21, 2011
    1. Aw...such a wonderful, sweet story!!!! :) N/T - Orchid on Mar 21, 2011
     
  9. I think everyone does - Catherine on Mar 21, 2011
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  11. Was worried about being jealous (DE twins and OE DD ment) - Renata on Mar 21, 2011
    1. oh I wish...(child ment) - Orchid on Mar 22, 2011
     
  12. Well...(preg/child ment) - Orchid on Mar 21, 2011
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  14. Thanks to everyone who responded(everything ment) - JMH05 on Mar 21, 2011
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  16. funny you should post this ? (child ment) - scubagrl on Mar 22, 2011
    1. Yeah, similar (child ment) - Anonymous on Mar 22, 2011
     
  17. U ladies are great! - Blueberry5 on Mar 22, 2011
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