Hello All . This is my first post and I am real glad to have found this forum . I have been lurking here for the past few days , finally got the courage to post . A little info about me . I am 37 yrs old with 6 failed IVF's with OE . The second and 6th one were chemicals , others BFN . I am seriously thinking about donor egg as our issue has been poor embryo quality in all of our cycles . We will have to be in the no tell camp considering that I belong to a culture that is not accepting of donoregg and a religion that has outright condemned it . I struggle each day with this . I have lost sense of religion and to some extent dont feel bothered with my decision , Its just that my family (mom and siblings) would not approve . I have not even discussed this with them or anyone else and feel very isolated . Since I seriously started thinking about donor egg , I have had nightmares of people finding out and ostracising us .
In the meantime we have been looking . Its been difficult due to my ethnicity(asian indian). I have found two donors that looked promising . One is quite goodlooking , better looking than dh and me and does not resemble either of us . I did not like the rest of her profile ( education/personality) . Donor number 2 has an excellent profile , seems bubbly/bright , but not much of a looker . I grade myself as above average in looks and dh as average . This donor I would rate as below average . Also she is significantly shorter than either of us . I am 5'4 , dh is 5'10 and donor is 5 . She has also had breast augmentation for practically nonexistent breasts(no offence meant , just a description). This donor does not resemble me , but I feel she has a generic look that would make her features merge with dh's so it would not be obvious we have used a donor .Dh prefers the first donor , I am not sure what to do . One option would be to wait and see if we get other/better donors but it is difficult to find donors in our community .what would you do .This feels like a group of very knowleadgeable and compassionate women and I would love to have your input .Thanks .