Thanks, I might do that. I have to think about it.
I'm really not sure if there is anything wrong.
The first time was FET (which only works about 30% of the time), I had ovulated and timing could be an issue.
The second time was a not very well developed egg freezing thing where all the eggs failed and I only got one very irregular embro. Out of over 15 people, only 2 had success and 1 pregnancy failed. I never should have done it...It's a long story why I did that is too painful to relate right now.
I really don't know if there is an additional issue. I actually suspect there is not. I also think I don't have any evidence there is.
It's interesting--one of the things that really made me give up with my OE was a board!!! I just realized that people on the board were obsessed but not having success and I felt like I didn't like the obsession without the success. Like, it was driving me crazy thinking I could find some 'answer.' So I just sort of focussed on DE as a way to avoid that obsession.
Now that I look back, I realize that my failure to get pregnant probably wasn't mysterious due to my age. I choose to believe medical science on that. Also, I worry that I focussed on the wrong thing--medical intervention--and insurance and stuff like that. I got very panicked.
So I want to take it easy, in a way and not get too hung up on 'what did I do wrong?' 'what's the magic secret to success?' because I think I read the signs wrong the last time...I really got too terrified of failure and it sort of distorted my perspective.