thanks for everyone's response (OE, loss ment)March 29 2011 at 12:20 AM
|JMH05 (Login Tahoegal)|
Response to Q below raises a question I have: What do people want to do with any extra embryos
I just wanted to thank everyone who chimed in on this subject of donor embryos. I know it is a sensitive subject and causes a lot of different feelings for everyone involved. Now that I am in a place of looking to adopt embryos(I know I need to walk lightly on that word "adopt", but I just can't write "use" donor embryos, it is just a personal thing for me) I realize what a huge gift it is for someone to donate their embryos regardless of where the egg and sperm came from. If you were the ones who created them they are your children and were intended to be your children. When we went through our 1 failed IVF with OE I really didn't think about it and just checked the box that we would donate them to research. Now I can't believe I never thought about it more seriously. Honestly, I knew that no matter how many kids we potentially had from our IVF we would use all of our embryos so I guess I knew they would never go to research, but now that I am on the other side I wish more than anything that I would've said I would donate them to someone else. I think that even if we couldn't have more kids and had embryos available I would love the thought that someone else was able to have a child or complete their family.
Well I just wanted to say thanks to those that have donated their embryos and encourage those that have ever considered it to imagine the gift you are giving to someone else who is in the shoes that you were in at one time, "Walking around in this world desperate to be a mom, have a sibling for a child you already have or complete your family and fulfill your dreams and feel "whole" again." I personally feel empty b/c of the loss of our son last March at 19 weeks and most days I just want to feel "whole" again. That is why I am pursuing embryo adoption...to feel "whole."