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Off topic: Bummed about adoption (child ment)

March 31 2011 at 3:32 AM
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I sometimes think my failures are telling me that I somehow just have to pray for the $$ to adopt.

Well, I am looking online and finding that adoption is going to be much more difficult than I thought. There are age restrictions. I did have depression in the past and that rules you out for some countries! sad.gif

It sucks. I don't have depression or any problems now.

It was situational. That situation is completely over and I changed my life. I'm totally fine now. But I have insomnia and see a dr. for that.

I have a loooooong history of depression because the situation I was in lasted a long time. But it's been a long time since I've taken any medication for depression. I don't need it.

Sigh. The last time I took meds, it was related to this infertility thing.

ARGH.

Also, you have to have $80,000 in net worth and I don't.

And the waits are 2-4 years!!!!!!!

Or longer.

Seriously, I am up at 3 AM, I have to give a talk tomorrow night and I'm doing this...

The nurse at the Dr's office (my OB) is sweet but of course told me to adopt.

What the F is wrong with people? Do they think you just go online and pick out a baby.

I really like this woman alot! She meant well. It's just...DO PEOPLE NOT UNDERSTAND I WOULD HAVE ADOPTED BEFORE IF I COULD HAVE??????????????

Then there is this woman I know who hates all fertility treatments. She has 2 adopted children domestic and is outraged that people won't just adopt kids from DSS. I mean...COME ON.

She of course has no idea that I have done this...Or ever will. But it's brutal to hear her comments.

I just wish people would understand ADOPTION IS HARD!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

This whole thing maybe actually be easier that adoption.

Screw it...I'm going to try to adopt from China. How I'm going to get the $$ I do NOT know. I'm just going to apply and pray that $25,000 falls in my lap somehow.

By the time I come up on the list I will have a longer history of no mental health treatment.

Of course, I'll save up like crazy.

Call me nuts. I just have to see if they'll count my furniture as going to my $80,000 net worth.

It's funny...my mother always told me that seeking help for depression was a bad idea because people would find out and there would be a stigma. And I guess she was right!

Oh man, nothing in this life is easy, is it?

I needed a miracle with the DE and now I need a miracle with adoption. I knew having a
child is a miracle but why does everything have to such a longshot???


    
This message has been edited by arive on Mar 31, 2011 3:37 AM
This message has been edited by arive on Mar 31, 2011 3:33 AM


 
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  1. So sorry about your bfn - E&H on Mar 31
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  3. Ugh, the old Why don't you go to the Baby Shop and just pick one? story (abortion ment) - thesameboat on Mar 31
    1. Wow, how do I find out about this Louisiana thing? - Orchid on Mar 31
      1. Think this is a huge conceptual gap . . . - Maggie in VA on Mar 31
        1. Yeah, well I can't even seem to find out about foster to adopt yet - Orchid on Apr 1
      2. start contacting agencies and comparing - thesameboat on Mar 31
     
  4. Adoption - Anonymous on Mar 31
    1. where did you adopt from, if you don't mind me asking? - Orchid on Mar 31
      1. I adopted from Guatemala and... - Anonymous on Mar 31
        1. for sure it is - Orchid on Apr 1
     
  5. Oh, Orchid - keifel on Mar 31
    1. I'm working on EVERYTHING - Orchid on Mar 31
     
  6. gotta step in on this one - birdy1600 on Mar 31
    1. Can't they check up on you? - Orchid on Mar 31
      1. Rules & costs vary (adopt ment) - HollyPa on Mar 31
        1. oh please please do!!! - Orchid on Apr 1
      2. They didn't in my case... - Anonymous on Mar 31
        1. Good...I really don't need anything now - Orchid on Apr 1
     
  7. What's KILLING ME...is Ethiopia - Orchid on Mar 31
    1. I have a friend who adopted in Ethiopia - Renata on Mar 31
      1. It started this month!!! - Orchid on Apr 1
     
  8. Feel for you so much . . . - Maggie in VA on Mar 31
    1. EXACTLY - Orchid on Apr 1
     
  9. adoption options - Skye on Mar 31
    1. Yeah, I am just sounding out all options - Orchid on Apr 1
     
  10. some adoption info websites - Brigid on Mar 31
    1. I'll guess I'll do whatever...people don't influence me - Orchid on Apr 1
     
  11. DSS happy story for your consideration. - MacRita on Mar 31
    1. I've seen some good DSS adoptions (child ment) - Orchid on Apr 1
     
  12. So sorry Orchid - New2011 on Mar 31
    1. thanks I have terrible regrets about not going to Ethiopia before - Orchid on Apr 1
     
  13. orchid - minniet on Mar 31
    1. I am going to attend...but I don't have $30,000 right now - Orchid on Apr 1
      1. Money - minniet on Apr 3
     
  14. Can you get licensed to foster/adopt and make your desire clear? - BlessedThistle on Mar 31
    1. OK thanks! Yes, I still want to do embryos - Orchid on Apr 1
      1. Here is their url with fees listed (children alluded to) - BlessedThistle on Apr 1
        1. Thanks a million... - Orchid on Apr 4
        2. Wow, those are impressive FET stats . . . - Maggie in VA on Apr 5
     
  15. adoption difficulties - Anon on Mar 31
    1. That's awful, Anon. - thesameboat on Apr 1
      1. the thing is - Anon on Apr 1
        1. Agree completely - anon on Apr 1
          1. agency fees - Anon on Apr 1
    2. that has to be the agency - Orchid on Apr 1
      1. the agency we went to - Anon on Apr 1
        1. Yes, well I think social conservatives may dominate this field alas n/t - Orchid on Apr 3
     
  16. Amen to that - TH on Apr 1
    1. Thanks TH...I'm getting there... - Orchid on Apr 1
     
  17. We were going to adopt (adoption, DE child ment) - Dixiechic on Apr 1
    1. Thanks...sigh - Orchid on Apr 1
      1. Yes, I'm in the Shady Grove program as well - Veesha on Apr 2
        1. They must have a cut off for age though? - Orchid on Apr 5
     
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