Hi everyone. I'm 40 years old and have DOR. Aside form trying naturally for one year before working with an RE, my husband (43 yo) and I have gone through 4 failed IUIs over the past year. The last IUI was a failed IVF (didn't make it to retrieval). The RE had of course suggested DE IVF before, but until now I wasn't able to even consider it without getting really angry and sad. But now - after going through so much IF-wise- I think I'm ready. My husband and I still need to talk it over and decide if we're both ok with it emotionally and if we can handle the financial aspect of it all.
The thing that is making me the most afraid right now (aside from the cost.ugh.) is the fear that the first try won't work. The RE told me that it will most probably work since I'm a good host or house or whatever she called me (;p) and we'll do ICSI, but I read on lots of forums about couples having to do multiple cycles of DE IVF before they get a BFP. I can't really find good research on the stats for success. Can anyone tell me how you 'got ok' with the risk of it not working the first time. And if it doesn't work the first time, is the cost for a 2nd try significantly less because you use frozen enbryos from the donor?
Lots of question. Hope that's ok! I'm just going down so many different roads in my mind about it all.