I think it is interesting how some people perceive third-party reproduction. I am always hearing the term "designer baby."
There is no perfect donor- because in a perfect world, there would be no donor and YOU would provide the egg!
So, of course you want someone who reminds you of you! Different things are important to different people. For some, it is eye color or height. For others, it may be education. I think everyone is concerned about health history.
I found it was easier not to know and never saw pictures. But, again, that was me- for some people, a picture is very important.
This is your decision- do not feel wrong that you are trying to match certain things.