don't know if you know my story but we got all the way through the adoption prep and got chosen by a friend of a friend's pregnant teenage daughter.
After ten weeks post birth during which time we were getting all ready and had totally opened our hearts to this wee boy, the birth mum changed her mind under pressure from her druggie pimp of a dad and kept the baby...well, her reluctant but weak mother ended up adopting him and going back on welfare herself.
It almost destroyed us so when we finally found a donor it was very much a final straw for us....
our DE baby has healed many many wounds just by her existence. We are so very grateful that this technology is available to us.
No guilt at all.