That is beautiful, Zaytune! (success mentioned)May 14 2011 at 2:04 PM
|thesameboat (no login)|
Response to Re: Anyone have a husband reluctant to do DE?
And I think your RE is a pretty intelligent and insightful man.
It took a while for me to convince DH to continue. And especially since, like Kay, it took several tries before we found success.
In our case, I sat DH down and had a talk with him, telling him that he wasn't allowed to decide this. He could decide where we lived, how we lived, etc, (in his country, not mine...) but I would NOT let him decide how much to try in the pursuit to have children. I told him I understood that the stress was killing him and that I would take over from here. This started when we were still doing OE. I didn't even tell him when we were cycling unless there was a reason for him to know where to be, etc. (We had to do DE abroad because it's illegal here in Germany.). And somehow, it worked. He relaxed. (I'm still amazed.)
We had success with our 5th donor on our 6th transfer (one was an FET. 5 were fresh. 4 were so-called 'perfect.') Like Kay, we started using donor sperm and immune treatments after several failures. We transferred embryos from both DH's sperm and the donor sperm and do not know which embryo resulted in our child.
And he adores her.
I wish you luck. Maybe let him read the responses here.