Please know I really need your sincere opinion. I am in no way to offend someone in any way what I will write below.
Option 1) My clinic has, with the donor they work with, West Indian and some that has the skin tone I want and that means we are similar so that child(ren) will not be so different. However, the total cost is expensive. I failed with this clinic one DE. There treatment is not tailored to patient. They use one way of approach. He is always in a rush. It is in my city that means no traveling, no missing so many work days, no out patient monitoring which is by itself headach.
Option 2) I am thinking to work with my next cycle with Ukraine clinic. I think cost is reasonable. But there is travelling and hotel cost, lose of pay check for those days, monitoring fees. But the most worries I have, I don't think they will get the skin tone like medium to medium dark tone complexion. I worry if the child(ren) become more light skin than the rest of the family like more caucasian skin tone. And if this will out weight the cost I am worrying about. What do I do? For me as I said so many times, I want my dream. I don't mind. And previously my clinic didn't have what I want but now they do. Do I travel far or stay here with my previous re?
Any other inputs if you have I appreciate. I am lonely on this matter, dh doesn't talk alot and family members don't know about de but knows about infertility problems.
I hope I didn't offend any one. Dh worries if the kid(s) become so different people will know. I am inclined more the Ukraine since I failed one cycle with this clinic. My confident level is not that.
Thanks
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