You are preparing your body, mind, and soul to grow, nurture, and parent a child! Just because you aren't in the process of making a bunch of eggs doesn't mean you're useless! I don't know about the wine. Hard to believe a glass would harm anything but don't take my word for it. Maybe someone else can advise. Just wanted to send you some words of support and encouragement. I love my twins, who were conceived with the help of a donor, beyond all reason. It is a very good thing to have this option, even though it comes with moments of pain and sadness over the loss of the genetic connection. Hang in there and let us know how things go.