There are almost eleven frickin years between my DDs.
(Eleven very painful years, I may add...)
my older DD is totally besotted with her baby sister.
more and more each day..
Yes, I wish they were closer but it is what it is and the pros of them having each other in the world still far outweigh the cons as far as I'm concerned.
I hate that your DE didnt work and am so glad you're gearing up for another whirl.
Hang in there.