Ladies, please be aware . . .September 13 2011 at 12:26 AM
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. . . men will not stay indefinitely in a sexless marriage. I am not making judgments about any of you as I have been where you are, both in my first marriage and in this one. But just realize and learn from those of us who learned the hard way, that women can and often do go along for a long time in a marriage without sex but men generally don't. Women tend to place a higher priority on other things in a marriage, but men will put sex at the top of their "must have" list. Men equate lack of sex with personal rejection and lack of love. One therapist I heard described it this way - if you approached your husband for a hug and he turned his back on you and walked away, the way you feel at that moment is the way he feels when you don't want him sexually.
If your hormones are out of whack, there is always hormonal supplementation. If the marriage is on the rocks, there is always therapy. Please don't get blindsided by a sudden divorce or an extramarital affair. Both are really so much more painful than giving in to sex you don't want once in a while! I don't mean to be preachy and hope I don't come across that way.
- Very wise words, and more explicit than I've been . . . - Maggie in VA on Sep 13