Have you checked out Resolve meetings for infertility. My RE told me to attend those meetings for support. I have never been to one. You can look them up online and see if they happen to meet in your area. I see a Resolve therapist that specializes in infertility and adoption and I hang out on these boards every day.
I attended my 13 year olds open house recently and noticed lots of older parents. I will be 44 when this baby is born so I'm on the watch for older parents. They are out there. I'm in the suburbs too.