Another question regarding SG (and donor quality in general):
I'm at the beginning stage of the egg donor path, and I've already realized that it's probably unlikely that I'll be able to have a donor whom I feel is ideal for us. I started out the whole process by poring over donor agency websites and getting stars in my eyes about all the wonderful options before I understood how the cost structure falls in place. Now DH and I are deciding whether to use SG's inhouse donor pool or use an agency (either with SG or our local RE).
I know there have been insightful threads on here about how much resonance is felt with the donor, so I don't mean to repeat the conversation, but I need a little help working through this issue.
I'm caught up right now in the quality of the essays on SG's site. There are so many misspellings and grammatical errors! It's shocking to me. Intelligence is very important to DH and me. We are both highly educated, but neither of us cares about status or material success (and unfortunately our income and wealth reflect that!
). So we are not looking for intelligence so we can produce some some power broker baby, but we both have a love for language and curiosity and continual learning, and we want to pass that on to our child/ren. I feel concerned at the low quality of the profiles at SG. A typo here and there is one thing, but this seems beyond that. Either they don't know correct grammar and spelling or they did not take much care in creating their profiles. Either way, it gives me pause.
ON THE OTHER HAND, I know that education does not = intelligence, and that at least some of what DH and I want for our child/ren comes from the "nurture" side of the equation. I have many relatives who did not go to college, and some of them are smart as whips and others kind of sunk into their circumstances without developing their smarts very much. But I think the potential was there for either scenario. So I don't want to dismiss a potential donor just because they can't distinguish "there" from "their," even though it's like nails on a chalkboard to me. The obvious answer is to go to an agency instead, as they have more well-educated donor, but there's the aforementioned lack of financial resources.
Do we go broke to get an educated donor we feel great about or do we conserve our funds for our family's future needs and use a donor we're merely OK with? That's a question only DH and I can answer. I'm just curious if anyone else struggled with this issue and what you decided and how it turned out.
Didn't intend for this to be so long! And I hope I don't offend anyone with my emphasis on the superiority of being educated. It's just where I am right now, and I'm looking for insight and perspective. Thanks for any thoughts!