OK...so after lots of hanging around thinking/planning/praying...tomorrow I am scheduled for my yearly gyn. appt....However, this one is also for my gyn. exam to get records sent to my RE to start the DE process.
Been talking w/dh about whether or not to mention this to my gyn. I've had this gyn. for 20 years. When I was 38 (44 now) I offhandedly mentioned I might want to try to have a babe. She was not nice about it and frankly, it still hurts when I think about her negative reaction. This is a catholic hospital and I'm thinking they won't do it with DS.(which we have to do, due to dh vasectomy) I did contact their fertility office, but I didn't get a positive response....I think basically, all they do is IUI w/dh's sperm (I'm not 100% sure about that, but they sure don't seem like they want to)
So, here's my question/dilema....I'm thinking, just go tomorrow, get the exam, etc and zip my mouth shut...then get records sent to RE......then, but what if she won't be my ob/gyn because I used DS? DH says, "surely they wouldn't do that"....well, if that happens, I'll just go somewhere else
Problem is this: I would really like to talk to her about it, as I value her opinion...but what if she strongly disapproves....I just don't want to hear that negativity right now...but at least I would have asked her and could get her opinion. this is a woman that has known me for 20+ years, and I'd like to ask her stuf like, "In your opinion, am I healthy enough for a pregnancy?" and things like that.....
Then I think....what if I get pregnant, would I wish I just hadn't said anything to her about it?
How do you deal with this?? AND do you have to tell you ob/gyn you used DE?
Thanks so much for your advice
love you all