I'm not sure you can, but time might (success ment)February 21 2012 at 12:33 PM
|Jen in TN (Login jentenn)|
Response to Hello! Advice sought: How to persuade DH about DE?
Hello and welcome! I know it's frustrating when you're not on the same page with your spouse on these already stressful matters of ttc. I'm not sure there's anything you can do to persuade him, but over time he may change his mind. When my DH and I began treatment for IF, we were both adamant that we would not use donor eggs or sperm, reasoning at the time that such a child would be "half-adopted" anyway and that if we were to do that, we might as well adopt. After 6 failed IUI's, I was 43 and we were debating whether to go ahead with OE IVF despite the wretched statistics. We also realized that adoption was not going to be easy either, especially since we really wanted an infant. It was my DH who asked if I'd like to reconsider about DE, and it felt as though a door was opening. We now have a beautiful baby boy. My point is that our feelings about what we will and won't consider can be fluid. If you're able to give him some time (and I realize it's hard), he may come around. I wish you all the best.
- Thanks, Jen - HappyBean on Feb 21