I guess my main question is... he almost sounds too good to be true. An RE who is not cherry picking and gouging?
I have been suspicious of the whole ART industry in the US for a long time. I've done two IVF cycles (both miserable failures) and found out about costs in Europe after I did that. I was really shocked. The price discrepancy tells me that US clinics are gouging. What else could it be? There is nothing that different between what US and other clinics are doing, you know?
Then the call with AFC today really got me thinking about the way US clinics charge and their stats vis à vis the whole cherry-picking thing (and how infuriating that is, as if we don't have enough issues, we have to figure that BS out as well???)... and it made me think about cycling at CNY, in spite of their stats, but I'm nervous. We don't have a lot of money left for a DE cycle, and my age is becoming a factor. Basically, we need it work within 1-2 trys ideally. Do you really think this guy is honestly just trying to help people, as he says? It's so hard to believe that, when the stats are screaming at you in the background.
We would not want to do a split cycle. I'm very uncomfortable sharing eggs. My ideal donor would be someone who would only donate to me and never wants to have children. Not going to find her, I know...! :P Anyway, they have a 2-cycle option that seems to be pretty good. We are going to run the numbers and see if doing a 4-cycle option with them is worth it or not.
I guess the thing that makes this really hard is that I am 100% convinced the clinics that are publishing stats of 70% and higher are cherry-picking their clients. So there's no one to really compare CNY to, if they are not doing that. Unless one compares them to Cooper, maybe?
I guess my biggest question for you is: having cycled there, did you really get a feeling that what I'm saying above/feeling is true? Was there ever anything that made you doubt going there? I've been reading posts here and some people have commented about them being sloppy, you seem to mention that as well. Can you give more specifics there?
The other thing that has me concerned: I've read that many there transfer three embryos. We absolutely, positively do NOT wants twins (or more!) Know people who've had them, it's not for us. So how risky would it be to do a SET with them? Any thoughts there?