Greiving, not obsessing (kids ment)February 29 2012 at 12:56 PM
|Aufrecht (no login)|
Response to DH doesn't understand
It sounds like you are in grief, not obsession. He has not lost his genetic connection to his future kids. Period. He is not in the same place you are. That is what you have to talk about.
It sound like, in choosing DE, you are the one who is losing that genetic connection. There is a very normal and deep grief that goes with this for many people. It takes a while and some remnants may remain for years or forever...it is a very individual thing.
Look into a donor who is not 3 years away from donating, even if it is not your sister. Just knowing you have that option, and that it is a real possibility for you may help lighten your feelings. Keep talking to him. Keep talking to us. Many many of us have been there. I will be thinking of you and hoping you are making it through this.
- So well put, Aufrecht - Catmama on Feb 29