Thanks so much for a warm welcome and again I need some advice.
DH and I are talking about DE seriously as I mentioned about a week ago. We are both a lot more comfortable with friends/family members than anonymous donors. Has anyone gone this route?
We have discussed some ideas. Right now I am thinking a lot about a former summer student of mine, a brilliant and lovely young woman. We struck up a genuine friendship some years back and managed to keep in touch (off and on). We have a lot in common and she is in many ways a much younger version of me, albeit brighter, wittier and more dynamic, lol. I'd be very comfortable using her. I think she might say yes because she is very altruistic and has already spent much of her adult life in service of others.
My question is, before I get too carried away, what do I need to be looking for in a donor? I believe that health and family history of inheritable diseases is a big issue. I don't have any knowledge about this with her. I have no knowledge of her fertility potential except that she is under or around 30.
We don't have a Dr. yet. I think we'd probably want to find a clinic in the town where she is living now. Do we need to find a clinic first, then donor, or vice versa?
Thanks for your help. I'm overwhelmed but starting to feel more positive about the future at last.