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requesting input on agencies

March 11 2012 at 9:16 PM
nycmomma  (no login)

 

I am feeling so overwhelmed. There are SO many agencies, and it seems if you google any of them, you'll find either very unhappy donors or IPs who've had bad experiences with any of them. And their agency fee seems so outrageously high. I have a friend who has been through this. She paid $5K for her agency and felt that once the donor was turned over to the clinic, did nothing. She said she felt the earned maybe half of that in terms of the amount of work they actually did. She had success, but felt very annoyed by the agency the whole time.

HOW does one find a good agency? I just read a horror story of a couple who gave their agency $5K, the donor backed out at the last minute, and they never got their money back. The agency disappeared when the donor did.

Many of these places seem to want money BEFORE the donor has even been accepted by the clinic. That doesn't seem right to me at all. I could possibly understand putting down a deposit, but not the entire fee before she's been screened.

It's really nerve-wracking. We've found our clinic, but finding the donor/agency seems even more daunting.

Oh, and if you're wondering, I doubt I'll find a donor in-house. I already spoke to our clinic's donor coordinator and she agreed that we'll find what we want much faster with a bigger donor pool to choose from, hence go with an agency.

Any pointers on how to go about this without losing any more sleep than I already have???


 
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  1. You can see my thoughts in pp - minniet on Mar 11
    1. which two would that be? - nycmomma on Mar 11
      1. The two I found to be honest - minniet on Mar 12
        1. what would suggest having verified? - nycmomma on Mar 12
          1. not necessarily- - Piper on Mar 12
          2. minniet can give you more guidance but as a minimum... - Piper on Mar 12
            1. not planning to meet her in any way, no - nycmomma on Mar 12
              1. You don't see the donor's med records - minniet on Mar 12
                1. thank you again - nycmomma on Mar 12
                2. medical records other than cycle records-- - Piper on Mar 12
                  1. Genetic testing, child's future contact - minniet on Mar 12
                  2. almost too much, yes... but getting through with people's help here...! - Anonymous on Mar 12
                    1. oops, above post was me (nycmomma) n/t - nycmomma on Mar 12
                    2. Attorney- - Piper on Mar 12
                      1. yes, the attorney has extensive knowledge of ART law... - nycmomma on Mar 12
                        1. (much empathy) - Piper on Mar 13
                          1. thank you so much, Piper - nycmomma on Mar 13
                          2. Piper is right: No regrets! - minniet on Mar 13
                            1. okay... - nycmomma on Mar 13
          3. What I did - minniet on Mar 12
            1. such good info - nycmomma on Mar 12
              1. You are so welcome - minniet on Mar 12
                1. thanks minniet! - Piper on Mar 12
                  1. Thanks Piper! - minniet on Mar 12
    2. minniet makes very good points here... - Piper on Mar 12
      1. thinking about frozen more and more - nycmomma on Mar 12
        1. Frozen eggs- - Piper on Mar 12
          1. I see, thanks again... - nycmomma on Mar 12
     
  2. CNG - green.elephant on Mar 11
    1. quite a few neg reviews for CNG - nycmomma on Mar 12
      1. So far so good! - green.elephant on Mar 12
        1. okay, thanks for this... - nycmomma on Mar 12
          1. positive experience with CNG - samys on Mar 12
    2. CNG - MM on Mar 12
      1. My post - MM on Mar 12
        1. MM - nycmomma on Mar 12
     
  3. Barge/ related question: any clinics with non-anon pools ? - Al on Mar 12
    1. not 100% sure... - nycmomma on Mar 12
    2. Don't know for sure, but I think ORM may have non-anonymous pool. - Raindrops1 on Mar 12
      1. ORM - green.elephant on Mar 12
        1. Thanks and good luck for your cycle! :) n/t - Al on Mar 13
     
  4. Giving Hope agency (child ment) - Co. on Mar 12
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  6. Stay Away from Fertility Alternatives - Zede on Mar 12
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  8. Northeast Fertility - hopeful7608 on Mar 13
    1. do you mean NE Assisted Fertility? n/t - nycmomma on Mar 13
      1. yes- - minniet on Mar 13
     
  9. The Donor Source? - Raindrops1 on Mar 13
    1. they've gotten some really bad reviews... - nycmomma on Mar 13
      1. Donor source - minniet on Mar 13
      2. Hmmm.....well that's not good. - Raindrops1 on Mar 13
     
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