Shady grove offers refunds for shared 1:2, 1:3 and 1:1 DE. Their policy it to go eSET first and only up # of embryos based on your history and quality. I did the frozen bank and then the 1:3 program and had a positive beta in the 1:3 program. In my own egg IVFs I did eSET twice then 2 and 3 other times because of quality. In frozen we did eSET. This cycle they recommended 2 day 3 embryos and given history we agreed. Can I ask your reason for not wanting to share? Are you trying to save embryos for potential siblings? Are you concerned about too many partial siblings? Are you trying to avoid stress? I travel about 80% and was able to make the shared program work and am thrilled to have used a shared donor.