(much empathy)

I know that all of this is so difficult. But there are so many good stories and so many good people. You are getting a lot of collective wisdom here so it is overwhelming...but I can assure you that all of this stuff ceases to matter once you are on the other side.

One thing about your embryos...if your clinic pushes back on freezing one to a straw, remind them that they are YOUR embryos! I get really annoyed at clinics with "strict" freeze policies and such because in many cases, they are being disingenuous--sure they want you to succeed but they also have another goal: they do not want a glut of your unused embryos in their clinic, even if you are paying storage, because it is a liability.

So if you want them frozen one to a straw because you are doing eSETs--then insist on it!! They are your embryos, not the clinics! Same with the freeze policy--if you want them frozen at blast and not taken to six day blast (mixed studies on effectiveness) then make them put it in writing!

sorry for my rant! a good embryologist will not be irritated if you want to about this!