I was thinking about it since it happened to me, and still I don't understand why and what caused....
I did get my immune result and it's recommendation. I spoke also to the doctor dealing with the immune but they have to send the result to the doctor here, who was in between us. So Thursday I had an appt to see her, and that is the protocol or step that was outlined in their paper. Even the secretary booked it for me. Anyway, I went Thursday to see the doctor. My appt was 9 am I arrived there at 8.30 am. The secretary said that the doctor read my result that was faxed from the immunologist and she will go over with me. I sat. The doctor came out around 9.10am and took my file. She came out at 9:35am. Here is how the discussion went:
RE: ok! what did SOSO( name of immunoligist) said to you?
Me: told her everything what he said.
RE: she agreed with all them by nodding her head. The she said that "we are going to start LIT here maybe in June.
ME: OH yeah why you didn't tell me. (Being happy because I was told to travel..)
RE: how are you accusing me. blah blah blah
Me: I was shoked and speechless. I apologized and said I am not accusing you. (and explain the reason I said that.)...little akward momment and silent in between too. But she went over and over. didn't want to pass.
RE: when you say " why you don't tell me isn't that accusing? And we don't take patient who aren't doing DE from us. We took you because the day you came you were crying and you didn't know what is wrong with you.
ME: You never told me you do DE before and when I came the reason I came was I heard your clinic work in between AEB doing the blood. (Note I paid them. there is a fee just for this, in the paper they gave in order to work in between I and AEB). PAUSED for a while then I ask about their DE fees.
RE: The agency is from STate....blah blah..
My question to you. Was I rude to say "oh why you didn't tell?" few minutes ago the discussion was that I need LIT and I never knew they are about to start and I saw this doctor in March and April to do biopsy. Sometimes, I thought could it be that the two times she did the biopsy there wasnn't any outcome. And an immunolgist who left me a message said "it could be inexperience person did your biopsy..." Although she blamed me saying it was painfull for me, meaning she couldn't do her job well.
When I look back now and also that day I just felt it was useless talking about "accusing....". I know she isn't my RE for fertility here. Oh and my first visit she asked me to signed a paper to transfer my file from my previous re. I said I will think about it. The reason I said that was that the main reason I went there was to do immune testing things in case of travelling to AEB. My previous re doesn't do immune testing or act in between AEB. What would you say about this meeting? Honestly, I cried saying is something wrong with me the way I deal with people. I am super super polite. OH and when we greeted each other that day. she said "how are you." I said "I am good thank you how about you." She said "did you say good" I said "yes, I am good thank you for asking me". Although I have alot of issue and I cry every single second but still who ever asks me I say I am good, I don't know. Again, the whole meeting was nothing I didn't learned anything even the phone consultation from AEB. Now, I worry what the next meetings if we have one would be. DH says she might have had bad day and not to take it personally. I have to do TB testing from my family doctor and then I think go back with the result. I am too scare to meet her. She is beatiful woman and in style.
I wouldn't thought doctor would talk like that and reason that way too. She should be above those thing. I see it in a teenage girl analyzing words.
What you think about her response and how would I deal with her in the future to give the TB test. This is horrible, to worry about how to talk to a person.