Well, I thought...(child ment)May 30 2012 at 7:54 PM
|Cathy (no login)|
Response to Thoughts on choosing a donor?
that our donor really looked like me, both as a child and as an adult. Our dd from that donor does not resemble me much. I think that your child from a donor who closely resembles you may not look as much like you as you think he/she will. There are just certain features that people have that are unique. like their profile or special nose. It's not like people think that our dd could not be my biological child, but there is really nothing about her features that match any of mine, and no one looks at her and thinks that we look a lot alike. But, some parents and their children don't look all that much alike either.
It's tough. I guess if a close resemblance to you is really important, you could go for that, but understand that it may not happen. Alternatively, if your child looking like she is definitely not yours will bother you (like a blonde blue eyed mom with a child adopted from Asia looks), you should pick someone that closely resembles you.