But I think of this forum as a safe place to explore all facets of this debate while understanding the difficulties each of us face with our ultimate decision. It is helpful to frame opinions in a respectful manner.
I don't think that telling the child satisfies any of my needs at all--in a perfect world, I would love to never have this discussion (or series of discussions)
That being said, in my opinion, it is not realistic to expect that this could remain hidden throughout a lifetime. Just last week, I read about yet another interesting new product in the genealogy field--this allows someone to send in a cheek swab and automatically be linked with relatives via social media. There are so many products and medications that are associated with individual genes that are in the works and I think, will be a reality in the future.
But I think my ultimate reason for telling is one that is rarely brought up in these debates. We always refer to the "child" and deciding what is right for our children. But I am always aware of the fact that my child will be an adult one day and will be making decisions for his own family. He needs to know that his medical history is not mine, or my parents. It may be that he will need to be a little more pro-active on certain medical things.
I am fortunate to have a supportive family and understand this is not always the case.