I'm not sure if this is the correct board, but I was really hoping to hear some (any) words of wisdom. It took us several years, IUIs, OE IVFs and DE IVF to get pregnant with our DS (DE #1 BFN, FET BFP). My pregnancy was challenging due to hyperemesis and I had a traumatic birth. I will admit to being a little afraid of doing this all over again. Even with my fears, there is a whisper I can't shake about wanting to cycle again. I really want my DS to have a sibling. Plus, our little family doesn't feel complete yet.
But I'm afraid. And I worry about my age. I keep doing math in my head. If by some miracle we get pregnant, I will be 50 when the child is five, 60 when the child is fifteen, 70 when the child is twenty-five--which doesn't sound too bad, it's the previous ones that shake me. Five and fifty, whew!
No one in my family is supportive of us trying for #2. They think it's too risky even though the doctors have cleared me. There was a huge wave of love and support when we were ttc #1 and that carried me during all of the lows. This time around the support isn't there and I think if we do move forward, I will keep it to myself. Plus, not being able to share any of this is interfering with my ability to come to a decision.
I would love to hear anybody's opinion about feeling older and their decisions to ttc #2 "against the grain."