I was 48 when I had my twins, and trust me, the thought of being the only 58-yo mom at their Little League game is dispiriting, but as long as your health is good and you don't have a family history of heart problems, diabetes, etc., there's probably little to fear in terms physical risk. I'm turning fifty-one next week with 2 yo's! There are some age-specific pregnancy risks, but for the most part, maternal health trumps age.
My experience is that people overestimate the risk inherent in age for a healthy woman. I have a 30-something friend who was obese, and while she tried to lose weight before getting pregnant, she was still heavy and she developed pre-eclampsia and delivered her daughter at, hmmmm, I think it was 28 weeks. At 48, I carried twins with no bed rest, working till 35 weeks when my doctor told me to stop, and ended up delivering at just shy of 38 weeks by c-section when my BP spiked (and, trust me, you need only peruse the "getting to know you" thread on my moms of multiples list to know that happens to plenty of younger women) w/no NICU time for the kids. When I e-mailed a young co-worker to see how his family was after he had his first son, he was trying to juggle taking care of a newborn and working from home because his wife, probably a 20-something, was in the hospital w/postpartum high BP (she's African American, so perhaps at higher risk).
In terms of support, don't put your childbearing up for referendum. Seriously. Just do what you're going to do. If you were still fertile, you wouldn't think about this; you'd just stop your pills or leave the diaphragm in the drawer, open a bottle of wine, and go party. Get your support here or at a local IF support group. From where I stand, it's more important for your child to have a sibling than for you not to feel awkward about your age, KWIM?
Take care and GL!
Maggie (in VA)
ETA: Sorry, didn't acknowledge the hyperemesis. Your doctors will probably handle that better the second time around.
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