FB, I think ultimately at transfer time you have to listen to your gut...m (child ment)June 6 2012 at 6:20 PM
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Response to To transfer 1 or 2 is the topic of the month on this board and the pink one.
and also to what the embryologist says about the embryo quality. We were totally okay with twins...even though we had 5 kids at home already (all singletons) so on our fresh cycle we transferred two perfect blasts. My lining was excellent, my previous history of carrying children was proven and our two blasts were top quality...one was hatching, one was about to hatch. I'm so glad that we transferred two though b/c I have no regrets.
That first cycle ended in a chem m/c despite it being perfect in all ways. I know had I transferred only one (for me) that I would have always doubted myself. Now keep in mind that we have to travel to our clinic and it's quite an ordeal so I also wanted to give ourselves the best chance with that cycle.
When we moved forward with our FET...I went back and forth over how many we wanted to transfer. Our clinic likes to know ahead of time what we are thinking so they know how many to thaw. We finally decided again that we would transfer two. The morning of our transfer though we got a call from our clinic that said that one of the two was not blossoming like they would like and so they suggested that we thaw out another. We ended transferring three...two very good quality 5 day blasts and one not so great quality...more of a hail mary type. We got pg with our singleton son on that cycle.
So when we went forward with our 2nd FET for number two DE baby again we agonized over what to do...well actually I was trusting my gut by that time as I believed that things just work out...and again we told them we wanted to transfer three b/c of our last experience...I didn't want to go all that way and not get pg at all...so they thawed out all three...all made the thaw and our embryologist said they looked as good as the day she froze them two years before...the grade for all three was excellent. From that cycle our twins were conceived. I was thrilled as I always wanted twins...thankfully I had a great pgcy and gave birth to 36 weekers and they are not doing great...but I think ALL the time of the babies who didn't make it to earth and you are so right there is a risk...and then there is a risk of them making it and it is a challenge to raise two babies at once....you really have to be good at balancing everything as some days...even for an old experience mom like me it's crazy around here...nutsville is what my DH says when he gets home and they are all clamouring to get in his lap...but it's a good crazy too.
So each of us has to find our own path to walk...but in the end FB...just trust that the UNIVERSE will guide you and if you listen to your heart you will know what is right for you and your family. I wish you joy as you move forward..it is an exciting time contemplating our soulbabies coming.
Blessings from Hope
- Hope, I think you are right - FB on Jun 6