Everything was the same apart from:
1. used fertility astrology, yes, you heard me right:
http://www.fertilityastrology.com
The astrologer was really clear when I should cycle - and I would not have cycled at that time if she hadn't insisted it was a once in a lifetime chance. Everything she predicted actually happened - it was uncanny. I didn't believe a word of it so I don't believe it was a placebo effect - just wanted to say I'd tried everything.
2. got an amazing acupunturist specializing in fertility - she was superb and it HURT like hell, but I felt different, I really did.
Everything else was a crapshoot - unproven donor, prednisolone for slightly raised NKCs but it never worked with previous 2 cycles, so same clinic, same protocol. My RE told me that there was nothing wrong with me and that if I just kept trying it would eventually work. It did - fifth attempt.