I can see how you would bring that up, and how some could feel that way, but I always felt like their "real" mother. "Mothering" does not just happen in-utero, either. It is a verb, and it entails the actual caring for and raising of the child (so women who need to use both a gestational carrier and an egg donor are still the mother!). Carrying the child does make you the biological if not genetic mother. For me, that meant a lot, and I would have been sadder using my eggs and a carrier than using someone else's eggs and my own uterus. Having had an OE child, for me, pregnancy was very important and in fact the most important part. My kids may not end up feeling that way. Time will tell.
|This message has been edited by doglvr on Jun 18, 2012 9:27 PM|