I was dead set against DE. I had multiple m/c's and basically every month I was under a doctors care either timed bd, IUI or IVF. Finally Dh put his foot down and said if I was going to ever move to DE t was now or never and he was done with fertility treatments. I felt boxed in a corner. I moved to DE so reluctantly and forcefully. Long story short after trying to settle on a donor for almost a year (a bunch fell through for different reasons) I jumped at one again from pressure (from the agency). Well flash forward. MY DS is the most amazing child. I am so lucky. He is smart, funny, beautiful kind. I could not wish for a better child. I would not trade him for any genetic child - I would not want a child other then him. We are going to try for #2 with frozens (if it works.) Mostly only because he is so awesome that we feel we must give life to another one of these incredible children. I cannot express enough how much I am GRATEFUL for my infertility so that this incredible person could come into my life. And again I was the one that was dragged into DE kicking and screaming!
I did look into adoption at the time I was moving onto DE. I friend of my husbands young teenage niece was pregnant and the two sets of parents convinced the kids to give the baby for adoption. We expressed interest and the niece wanted us to adopt so that there could still be a relationship and we were fine with that. But then right before birth she decided she wanted to keep the baby. (that her parents are now unhappily raising). The experience was very difficult for me (thinking I was getting this baby and then coming to terms with it not happening that I preferred the "control" of DE. GL to you in whatever you decide!