I had worry thoughts throughout my entire pregnancy and was very aware I had used DE instead of OE. But very soon after my DS was born I fell totally in love with him and I am his mother and he is my baby. While I was pregnant I did everyhing I could to be responsible and take good care of the little growing baby. But both during pregnancy and childbirth I did not feel it was my baby. Now that he is here I just love him and am so happy he is here
Now when I think about my frosties I think they are 100% mine and my responsibility. My perspective changed entirely after birth. It's ok that you feel sad about feeling like a gestational carrier now. You will feel like a mommy when you hold and care for your baby. That feeling grows every day as you forget the sad pregnancy thoughts. And from reading responses on the board, many women don't have the sad thoughts at all. They are just so happy to finally be pregnant.