Hello, and huge hugs and support to you. I can only speak for myself when i say that the moment i FINALLY accepted that after all the years drugs, surgeries, probing disappointments were over. I couldn't have cared less about the genetic connection. i just randomly picked, in theory my kid should look nothing at all like me, but that kid looks just like me! The nurses said it, my friends say it. And even if she didn't it wouldn't matter. I give her the best part of myself every day. That is what makes your child yours. When (I am gonna say when cos I believe in you.) you have your baby You will give him or her or them the very best of you. That's all that matters.