I wouldn't give up on your dream yet. Fewer clinics do accept patients at 50+. GIVF accepts DE patients up to 55, but not in their vitrified egg program (and what is up with that? (:-/ ), and I believe CNY treats women into their 50's. I think both RBA and Shady Grove (?) cut off at 50 and 364 days. I think Cooper treats DE patients up to 55. Most clinics have another round of tests for 50+ patients, including EKG and colonoscopy. Losing weight will help you have good numbers on those tests and reduce the risk of complications in pregnancy, so good luck with that.
Best wishes to you!
Maggie (in VA)