I've mentioned before that I truly feel my DH suffered from this (failures, m/c, child m)August 21 2012 at 1:46 AM
|thesameboat (no login)|
Response to Infertility and PTSD-Cross-Post
We were among the group of women who, a few years ago, tried and tried with DE and perfect embryos over and over and never got pregnant or m/c repeatedly. (The green board was created for us.) The magic egg theory didn't work for us for a very, very long time. After 9 years of ttc and 6 DE transfers using embryos created from 5 donors, we finally had our precious daughter. We were both thrilled.
But DH broke down and cried EVERY DAY for the next 6 months. He kept talking about his fears that it would never work, that we would continue to struggle and about how grateful he was to me for refusing to listen to him when he pushed me to give up.
Now that DD is 3, he seems recovered. But every once in a while it pops up again.
I have to say that I am so glad we didn't need counseling to do DE, because I suspect they would have said he was too reluctant while we were in the middle of the trenches. He was really dragging his heels after around donor number 4.