you found this out (although more information is better than less) and your DH's actions just stink. you have received good advice above, which I won't repeat but 2 thoughts: 1. although you don't want things with your DH to devolve into fighting, I do think the stronger front you put up with him right now, the better (and, quite frankly, may result in a higher chance of him "coming back", if you would still take him, at this point)- make clear his behavior is completly unacceptable. I always think men try to get away with as much as they can sometimes... 2. since this unidentified "lady" now seems to be around your DD, query whether you now have an important basis for asking out who she is exactly - you have a right to know the identity of anyone spending time with your daughter, in my view. This may be a way to put your DH's feet to the fire, finally. Hang in there - you will make it through this and you at least deserve honesty and transparency in what is going on. SMRC
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