...found two donors who fit the bill to a tea for me... loved them, felt that 'connection' to them, knew their real names, etc... I did two fresh cycles with each of them, all failed... several FET... all failed. Then selected a donor who did not resemble me, was opposite to me in many ways (although there were some similarities), was not a superstar in my book, and I selected her because she was one of the few donors who offered a photo at the clinic... I required no other criteria... and she provided me with the most gorgeous, fun-loving, comical, smart and caring son I ever could have imagined. The perfect donor is the one who can help you to have your perfect child. For me, similar looks were very important when selecting a donor, but now that my son is here, I wished I hadn't focused so much on the similarities/dissimilarities, since in the end, it really does not matter. You can't go wrong either way... you will have the child you were meant to have. Best of luck to you.