We are also not in a position to spend alot of money either as we have already spent over 50K over the past 3 1/2 yr and I am still paying back some loans. If we proceed then I believe that we will choose the 3 to 1 program from all the input here on the boards and drain our 401k.
I am just so tired of waiting as when January rolls around it will be 4 yrs. I tend to think, wow I could have gotten another college degree in that time or PhD or became a doctor.
Someone else chimed in about their unhappiness w/ the donor pool so I hope that I will find a good one as they pop up this fall.
I so hope that this is your lucky cycle and that you get your BFP!!! Please keep us posted.