I would not bash you because the issues you raise are the same ones I think about all the time. And you were in your early 40's where it is still sort of common to have kids. But for those of us who are in our mid-40's (I am 46 now), I feel really odd to be having a child. Of course, I still want a child, but I do think it makes you stand out. And I want this, so I will go forward with it, but I do realize it will be a lifetime issue that I would be dealing with. I also calculate the milestones, so when the child is going to kindergarten, I'll be over 50. Just thinking about it makes me feel very strange and like I am some strange oddity. I am not sure how I will deal with all the talk and looks, but I can't think about that now. If I think about it too much, I will just stop trying. As I mentioned before, I really, really wish I could be like the other posters that don't care what others think.